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'Maybe' was said in the presence of others for the purpose of keeping up a charade.
'Maybe' was nothing more than a negative disguised as openness, so outsiders wouldn't suspect how rigid things really were.
'Maybe' was reserved for those few moments when I forgot the rules, slipped up and made a request in public. 'Maybe' was code for "don't make that mistake again."
It's funny how even after we learn that the rest of the world is not the same as what we may have experienced growing up, the effects of the ingrained lessons of our family will often linger on- even if we don't mean for them to. Sometimes it catches us by surprise just when we feel how strong we are and just when there's really no reason to fall back into old habits.
Right now I am awaiting the final answer to a fairly big 'maybe'. And I'm reminding myself that an answer of yes or no is just that. An answer. A fair answer that doesn't mean anything other than that.
Life is full of questions and answers and sitting with a 'maybe' is not necessarily a bad thing.
Maybe that's what life is... a wink of the eye and winking stars.
-Jack Kerouac
Well, just think of it from our frame of mind. I've realized that in our house I use "maybe" as a way of telling my daughter "probably". As in, if she's good, then it'll most likely be a "yes".
ReplyDeleteSo... just be good, and hopefully you'll get your "yes" :)
Yes, I have noticed that other families seem to take this approach as well. It seems kind of fun to know that you will probably get what you want if you can just keep it together until the 'yes'!
DeleteSo many people remain stuck in old patterns the whole of their lives. You astonish me in how you have overcome a crazy childhood and transformed into this Very.Healthy.Person. You did that. Most people who are very healthy are so because they grew up in loving home environments. Those who didn't and grow into healthy always amaze me.
ReplyDeleteMaybe merely means undecided. It could go either way. Try to think positive and hope The Law of Attraction will work for you!
Keeping positive is something I need to do as much as I possibly can and for as large of a percentage of my everyday life that I can. It's only right to make my own mark on my life and not let the negative define who I am. That would be the true waste- to let someone else define me. Nope, not going there!
DeleteMaybe you are right.
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