As for now, today was the day for the last pre-op visit regarding my husbands big reconstructive surgery. This time we saw the muscle specialist. She was NOT as happy-go-lucky, touchy-feely as our hernia doctor. She does come with wonderful credentials and everyone says her work is impeccable. The doctors can't all be somebody we'd like to hang out with, right? I guess it's good to have a dose of reality to go along with my hopeful attitude. Balance is a good thing.
So here's the low down: Because of the original massive infection there isn't a whole lot of abdominal muscle tissue left to work with. That means that my husband will need to have a lot reconstruction work done using some of his oblique muscles in place of most of his abs. Realistically, we can expect to see a return of about 80% of his original core strength level.
Now usually I like to say that I am neither optimist or pessimist, but a realist. In this instance though I am totally going with the optimism. There is no other way to go here. We may be faced with the idea that nothing will ever be the same and that we shouldn't expect too much, but I'm just not accepting that. Everything we have been through so far has shown me that I should expect more than anyone would imagine.
I am still feeling...
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And who could have guessed it would all happen because of my husband coming through a near death experience?
I know people say that certain major life experiences change them for the better. They say it all the time. It starts to feel cliche'. But it isn't a cliche'. Not when you're living it. And I am no different. I believe that this is changing us for the better. Even as we go through it I can see how this whole thing has made me capable of dreams I never could have dreamed before, in a pretty direct way. I have literally gone from being thankful that my life is finally just pretty much 'normal' to believing that's it's actually OK to voice my craziest desires aloud.
One of my all time favorite inspirational pieces of art:
Check out those road signs!
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