There is a question that I have pondered for many moons. It is the question of what the root cause of motivation truly is. It seems to me that I have never found a really good answer to this question. Some people claim that seeing others succeed or not determines much about how motivated they are to do the same. Either they see a good example and want the same for themselves or they witness what brings about a lousy life and want to be sure that they do anything they can to better themselves.
Still there is the flip side of that coin. Take a second person who sees the very same things that motivates one person to do well in life and they may end up doing little or nothing with themselves because they had a great life and didn't feel like they needed to work that hard to get anywhere or their life was miserable and they just never learned how to step above that and ended up wallowing in it instead.
Even two people who grow up in the same household can turn out very different from one another. (Yes, I'm thinking of my sister and I here.) So maybe the question is more about what determines the way that one person will react, as opposed to another, to the very same situation even if both people share very similar back rounds.
What brought this all to mind today was a rerun of an interview that I had seen when the movie 'The Blind Side' first came out. The guy who inspired the story, Michael Oher, was being asked about what a difference the family that took him in had made in his life. I was surprised to hear him say that although the family that helped him had made things a lot easier for him, he always knew that he would be successful. He had no doubt that he was going to be different than his rough upbringing might have justified for him. He was very appreciative that because of the help he received he was able to concentrate on his talents and did not have to work several jobs. He knew things had happened sooner for him, without further hardship, but he had full confidence that he was going to do the things he dreamed of no matter what.
I am inspired by this guy and still left wondering. I too have been asked over the years what it is or was that made me different from where I came from. And in turn why my sister was not similarly motivated. I know that for me it was a simple truth. What I saw around me was nothing I wanted any part of. I knew in my heart of hearts that there was no way that I was going to allow myself to continue life like that. I would do what I had to do to get where I was going and never look back.
But the question remains. It can't possibly be that some people are just born motivated and others are not. I believe there must be some turning point, some reason. No higher power or order in the universe could possibly allow that kind of randomness. God, I wish I knew.
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