Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Keepin' It Real

After a couple of months of living in a bit of la la land, some realities have come home to roost. 
What am I referring to?
Well, last December I got the wonderful news that my nephew would be going to live with his Dad.  This was something that desperately needed to happen.  Life was getting really complicated for this little guy and we were all overjoyed at the idea that he would be getting a real second chance.
I still could not possibly be any happier with the new living arrangements for my nephew.  He is definitely right where he is supposed to be.
However, a bit of reality has set in.  Don't get me wrong.  I am not ungrateful.  Just taking in some things on a deeper level.
So after the initial euphoria, the new reality is this:  My nephew is 9 years old.  Although he is an immature 9 socially, he is highly intelligent.  I cannot thank God above enough for that fact.  However, it turns out his social issues are pretty complicated.  This is going to require a lot of work.  9 is not an age that it is easy to learn things that should have been taken in at age 3 or 4.  And this guy has anger to spare, that's for sure.  And totally understandable.  The indicators are all there that this is going to be a 2 steps forward, 1 step back process.  Even things we know and accept rationally are not all that easy to accept emotionally. 
He has wonderful counselors and understanding teachers and relatives.  We are all in this together and we will love him through it.  And we will all learn a lot by going through this process.  For me, personally, it is hard to trust that everything will work out for the best.  I know I can be a bit of a control freak, but I continue to work on that.  In the end, this will be good for all of us.  We couldn't possibly be working together toward any greater goal.


  1. That's such a tough thing to watch. My heart aches for him, as well as his father. I'm sure this journey is all so new to all of them and while there is that initial excitement, I know it's difficult when reality and the day-to-day start to set in.

    The good news is that it sounds like he's in a super supportive environment now and getting the help he needs. And that's just a true testament to the type of people y'all are.

    Hoping for many good things for your sweet nephew. It's good to see you back!

  2. @ Gini- Thank You. Your kind words brought tears because of how understanding I know you are on this particular subject. The pain of watching my nephew work through this is so very intense.

  3. Change can be so hard! Especially when you watch someone else struggle and know that you would do it for them if you could!

    I hope that the transition goes well and better than anyone could expect!

    And YAY for you guys and your trip to Disney!

    (p.s. - your entries on our giveaway were showing up as deleted by author - did you want to leave them in? thanks and nice to "meet" you! :)

  4. It is very difficult, but there is no reason to doubt that things will improve. That's the way it works in life.


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