After a couple of months of living in a bit of la la land, some realities have come home to roost.
What am I referring to?
Well, last December I got the wonderful news that my nephew would be going to live with his Dad. This was something that desperately needed to happen. Life was getting really complicated for this little guy and we were all overjoyed at the idea that he would be getting a real second chance.
I still could not possibly be any happier with the new living arrangements for my nephew. He is definitely right where he is supposed to be.
However, a bit of reality has set in. Don't get me wrong. I am not ungrateful. Just taking in some things on a deeper level.
So after the initial euphoria, the new reality is this: My nephew is 9 years old. Although he is an immature 9 socially, he is highly intelligent. I cannot thank God above enough for that fact. However, it turns out his social issues are pretty complicated. This is going to require a lot of work. 9 is not an age that it is easy to learn things that should have been taken in at age 3 or 4. And this guy has anger to spare, that's for sure. And totally understandable. The indicators are all there that this is going to be a 2 steps forward, 1 step back process. Even things we know and accept rationally are not all that easy to accept emotionally.
He has wonderful counselors and understanding teachers and relatives. We are all in this together and we will love him through it. And we will all learn a lot by going through this process. For me, personally, it is hard to trust that everything will work out for the best. I know I can be a bit of a control freak, but I continue to work on that. In the end, this will be good for all of us. We couldn't possibly be working together toward any greater goal.